tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post4269639391787033065..comments2023-10-16T07:43:33.631+00:00Comments on All Grown Up...still feeling like a kid: Policies and Procedures. What about People?allgrownuphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15558724767417950811noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-71666274082282388442009-08-27T20:38:46.933+00:002009-08-27T20:38:46.933+00:00Natalie: your story is heartbreaking! I was in tea...Natalie: your story is heartbreaking! I was in tears just reading your comment. You'd think after 4 babies your opinion might count for something. I am almost GLAD of my 3rd degree tears securing my c-section, there is no way on HELL's EARTH I would have ever been able to give girth naturally in my current condition. I found the SPD on top of labour pain unbearable LAST time, and this time it's increased tenfold. Thank you for our kinky bib, it made my crappy day, I love it so much :-) it's gone in the nappy bag for "best".allgrownuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558724767417950811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-62546865922973241832009-08-27T09:30:40.073+00:002009-08-27T09:30:40.073+00:00Hiya, I am so sorry i'm only just reading this...Hiya, I am so sorry i'm only just reading this post and commenting, I can TOTALLY sympathise with you. I too know this pain and anguish.. I suffered with SPD too with my 4th baby (soph!)I also stopped my medication early, I was told if i took it after 30 weeks, My baby would be born addicted to them and would need special care to be weaned off them! (great thought huh!!)<br />I wanted (needed) a C section, the docs would only perform it if i reached 40 weeks (40 WEEKS... hey.. I had been in & out of Labour from 22 weeks) and was bed ridden from 5 months pregnant due to the pain of walking/standing/sitting. I live alone with my kids, So the 3 boys Had to be shipped to and from school in taxis everyday or with my mum/sisters walking them on their days off. I hardly ever saw my 'real' consultant too.. and it was so frustrating trying to talk through the pain and desperation for an earlier C-section date.. (as i said, was in & out of labour from 22 weeks, they were adament i was going to go full term!) and if i was to go into labour again (if i was more than 37 wks) they said they wanted me to Labour.. even tho I was unable to walk etc due to the SPD! I begged them that the pain would be too immense to cope with a natural birth, also I had (still have) fear of labour after giving birth to my 3rd son at 27 weeks and needing an emergancy C-section. I didn't want to be in labour, have a problem, and need an emergancy again.. as I couldnt cope (mentally) I wanted a planned, smooth sailing, calm Birth by C-section so i could enjoy the last baby i'd ever give birth to! When i was 39+5 weeks (thank god i'd made it this far!) my friend had sais she would look after all the boys, so I could have a night off before the big date. My mum was away visiting my big sister who was getting married! and all my other family were busy. So i welcomed this break for one night. I'd gone to my friends house to settle the boys in and OMGosh I started going into labour.. again! I made sure it wasn't going away and after about 4 hours.. I was still in Labour, The docs/hospital had said to go in.. and i said I was due to have a c-section and that i needed one as soon as i got there as I was scared of labour etc... they read my notes and saw... "ONLY GIVE C-section if she reaches DUE DATE" they said.. as its in your notes that you HAVE to labour if your before your planned sectoin, you have to give birth naturally.. I started screaming.. crying.. I was only 2 days away from "full term" i'd suffered pre-term labour, immense SPD pain, numerous hosp transfers, drugs.. and now.. at 2 days before my due date.. your saying I CANT HAVE MY C-Section! <br /><br />Sorry.. I am waffling on here.. Long story short.. I got my C-section after hours of begging and crying and thank god i did, Soph was born weighing 10lb 6oz.. I know that if i had been made to labour, she def would have got stuck in my pelvis (my 1st son was only 8lb 13oz and he was Stuck in my pelvis for hours) and it would have been a HUGE trauma emergency ordeal. <br /><br />STICK to your guns... Do NOT let them dictate to you about your body and needs!<br /><br />I hope you have a super relaxing, controlled and enjoyable birth.. <br />and i hope your SPD goes without too much pain after baby is born :-) <br /><br />if you ever need to talk, please email me :-) xxxx<br /><br />p.s. I hope you received your kinky bib ok, sorry for the delay in posting it xxxxSoph4Sophhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08409125380440759025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-77193122694417574932009-08-21T17:26:05.434+00:002009-08-21T17:26:05.434+00:00Thank you everyone, your comments mean so much whe...Thank you everyone, your comments mean so much when I'm feeling lousy. I'm sorry I havn't been able to read and comment on all your blogs too, struggling to sit upright, and no laptop at mum's. But I really appreciate your thoughts xxallgrownuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558724767417950811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-88606793044971456072009-08-21T14:23:53.837+00:002009-08-21T14:23:53.837+00:00you poor thing it is awful when they can't see...you poor thing it is awful when they can't see past their own procedures. I hope baby comes soon and you start to feel better, big hugs xxxxand1moremeans5https://www.blogger.com/profile/05872366593739511282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-3177145034753417612009-08-20T20:38:31.201+00:002009-08-20T20:38:31.201+00:00I can't believe they're not being flexible...I can't believe they're not being flexible when you're in so much pain. How insensitive.<br />Fingers crossed you get a human being next time and not a Dr Hospital Policy. xxsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-5566433128173111752009-08-20T06:42:45.867+00:002009-08-20T06:42:45.867+00:00I'm sorry. And I'll keep my fingers crosse...I'm sorry. And I'll keep my fingers crossed that baby overrides the doctors and comes early for you.Coding Mamma (Tasha)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17374751246656722167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-42165808671001393702009-08-20T03:34:32.448+00:002009-08-20T03:34:32.448+00:00OK now I feel like a right mardy winge bag for moa...OK now I feel like a right mardy winge bag for moaning about my late pregnancy issues. You poor thing, clearly every day is a serious pain filled challenge, I am shocked they won't do the c-section at 38+5, that is bonkers. I certainly wouldn't let up on this one, escalate and ask to see or speak with your consultant, if that’s easier given to get out the house sounds excruciating. Meeting baby will be all worth it, I am keeping everything crossed for you that he/she makes an early appearance one way or another – get that raspberry leaf tea consumed! Very best wishes you and your family, look forward to hearing of a safe arrival. Claire xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-2644476363543466062009-08-19T20:42:51.354+00:002009-08-19T20:42:51.354+00:00Its so horrible when they are not listening to you...Its so horrible when they are not listening to you and fobbing you off, I really hope your own doctor is able to help and get things moving for you a bit quicker...take care..xxLorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12458056492748230890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37337796.post-29717768770435276592009-08-19T20:27:23.503+00:002009-08-19T20:27:23.503+00:00ooh that is awful! poor you that you had to go th...ooh that is awful! poor you that you had to go through that and that they are being so insensitive.Slugs On The Refrigeratorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00730157357398219321noreply@blogger.com